The 'War on Women' in America is Even More Personal This Time

Dear Bloodied Lining of America:  

Just admit it - you’re fearful the country will not always be white.

Don’t let the statistics deceive you – most aborted fetuses in this country are white. The focus right now is on ensuring no woman can have an abortion in this country. While this has the potential to change the life trajectory of women of all races – the intent is to ensure more white babies are born. Admit that it’s not the idea of Black and Hispanic babies being born with privilege (because they aren’t), but it’s the idea that not enough whites will roam the country years from now, hopefully with lingering ideals of superiority.

On the brink of a recession, at a time when depression is at an all-time high; while we are still fighting off the unknowns of a pandemic that just won’t turn off – your focus is on turning back the clock on women’s rights.

Now more women will desperately seek abortions performed in non-sterile places, by unfit attendees.  

Was Roe vs. Wade problematic for the evangelicals?

No, it was problematic for the fake “Christians” who refuse to acknowledge that God won’t ask them about other people’s bodies on Judgment Day. Roe vs. Wade was problematic for the ostentatious pro-lifers who are only pro-life Pre-birth.

We all know that once a baby exits the womb into the unfiltered American air – his life becomes less important to the powers that be. Each year that child advances in the school system, his safety and well-being become less Pro-Life and more Pre-Death. That’s why we’ve addressed the mandate of forcing birth, before ensuring more guns don’t make their way into schoolhouses.

This is all about selfish and unmitigated control.

Accountability is not the fitting narrative. Yes, some women act irresponsibly in choosing their sexual partners. So what? Abortion may not be birth control, but a woman should always be afforded the decision to control whether she gives birth.

Adoption is not the fix-all response. Over 400,000 children in this country are in foster care, wishing for a loving home and family. The reality is most of them will not be adopted.

Abstinence was never the answer. We can stand before classrooms full of pre-teens and teenagers and tell them not to have sex until we’re blue in the face – they will still do it.

The only answer is autonomy over one’s own body. If you want a tattoo – get a tattoo. If you want your hair blue – dye your hair blue. If you want a piercing – get a piercing. If you want to be pregnant and then no longer want to be pregnant – the decision should be yours to make and live with from now on. 

A girl has her first menstrual cycle all alone. A girl may experience precocious puberty all alone. A woman carries the physical pains of pregnancy, miscarriage, various vaginal trauma, labors that can reach indescribable levels of pain – ALL ALONE. Girls nor women need help deciding what they are willing to endure beyond the unavoidable life pains associated with being female.

A fundamental human right should not be stripped from anyone.

Imagine if once a boy began to produce sperm he was taken into a doctor’s office and temporarily stripped of his rights to reproduce. What if until he completed high school and received at least a diploma, the procedure wasn’t reversed? How about the procedure remain intact until he could pass a basic skills assessment? Or what if a man weren’t allowed to impregnate a woman until he earned a certain amount of money?

I guarantee just the very idea of putting stipulations on a man’s body made someone stop reading.

One woman or girl can give birth once in a calendar year. Whether it be by choice or by force, one woman or girl can give birth once in a calendar year.

It was never the woman’s body that needed dictation.

One man or boy can impregnate multiple women or girls per day. Whether he’s cognizant of his role in such conception or not, he can impregnate multiple women in one day.

Vasectomies are less invasive, cheaper in cost and reversible. It’s time women demand more accountability and selflessness from the men they share their bodies with, as all birth control (pills, shots, patches, IUDs, etc.) come with far greater risks.

This is a detrimental move by our Supreme Court. America is in horrible shape and their solution is to force people who don’t want children to have children. More children will be killed by their unfit parents. More children will go to school with mental health issues. More teachers will leave a profession that overwhelms them with innocent, yet unreachable children.

Just wait until August… 

When school starts in a couple of months and gas is still $6 per gallon, and parents must drop three children off at three different schools before driving in the other direction towards work…

What happens when more parents sign their children up to ride school buses? And there’s still a shortage of school bus drivers? And school buses run on diesel fuel? What then? Last year there were children waiting at bus stops each day for buses that never showed up. What then?

I used to naïvely believe that children were the future. No, they are the pawns in the devil’s politics.

Our reproductive rights as women have been under attack for years. The banning of abortions is only the start.

We must speak up for generations to come – it can’t be just women protesting, but men as well. That includes the men who’ve paid for abortions to hide extramarital affairs from their wives; that includes fathers who “want the best” for their daughters just as they do for their sons; that also includes ministers who wisely realize that God gave women the free will and volition to decide if they choose to be fruitful and multiply.

I’ve looked a 16-year-old in her eyes the day she found out she was pregnant. I listened to her cry because her family told her that they didn’t believe in abortion and that she had to keep the baby if she wanted to live in the family home. It didn’t matter to them that the baby’s father would also be the baby’s grandfather.

I’ve held a 14-year-old, new to America in my arms as she told me the story of a coyote (smuggler) raping her while another man held her mother down.

I’ve watched a faithful church girl be secretly given baby gifts in the church parking lot, because unlike the pregnant mother married to the abusive and cheating husband – she was somehow a whore because she was unmarried and pregnant and couldn’t be celebrated within the walls of the church.

I’ve watched fellow teachers work the same 187 teacher days as myself and only take home $1,500 of their monthly $4,000 + paycheck because insuring their children took nearly their entire income.

I’ve listened to women like me, from my community, my ethnicity, with like educational background share stories of almost dying on the delivery table because medical professionals believed they could “take more” pain.

Excuse me if life in this country has made me not want to have a baby in this country.

I’ll never forget the day I had my IUD inserted.

I felt everything: the cold speculum that my very gentle doctor used, the inserter of some sort that traveled through my cervix and my God, him landing that sucker at home on my uterus. I have a high tolerance for pain, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t shed a tear. It hurt like hell.

Coming soon apparently is legislation that will stop doctors from administering such contraceptive procedures.  

I didn’t even endure that pain for my IUD to serve as a method of birth control. I endured the pain it in hopes that I won’t one day find myself with another fibroid tumor the size of a baby’s head. I endured that pain in hopes that I’ll never need another c-section (to remove another fibroid) without a baby to show for it.

This war on women is personal. Once again unfortunately, the burden of fixing the crime is on the victim - women.